Thought I'd Share:

80/20 Rule

Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?':

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this guy in my office is a real looker. But it's not his Athletic features that got me. I'm crazy about him because he's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'...

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..'

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet
type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old highschool flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you start admiring what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!
QUOTE : DO NOT LOOK BACK AND ASK WHY, LOOK FORWARD AND ASK WHY NOT

Anxiously Waiting.

Today my dreams were crushed...

as I watched the mail woman stuffing white and brown envelopes into the mailboxes. I walk to the mail box, slide the key into the keyhole, turn to the left-then right...only to see emptiness. I felt an odd nervous rush of relief flow through me, because I have just passed another day with the fear of rejection. The feel of failure haunts me everyday. The only day it will cease is when I get that one white envelope that I am longing for. Opening it will be the death of me. Some people think I am over-exaggerating, but the way I see it is if you want something so badly it becomes the one thing you are the most afraid of. Believe me when I say I'm scared shitless. Three weeks is a terrible wait for something you have been wanting for a few years. It is my fault though. If only I had....screw the "if's" that's the past. What I'm doing is bettering my future FAIL or PASS...hopefully the latter.

Once I know I passed this test, there will be plenty more that will scare me, but not as much. This is determining my mind: If I am smart, smart enough, smart enough to attain the "equivalent"...
I feel as though something bad should happen. You know right when you are on the peak of so many great things, the bad things start showing up...I guess to create an equilibrium. All I know is I hate equilibrium in karma, and in positivity and negativity. I'd rather have an unequal balance of good and bad. Or better yet, good and great. 


I know many people who are doubting me on going to The University of Alabama, some trying to persuade me to go to another school. They don't understand that going to Bama has been a LONG time goal. I intend to achieve that no matter who's friendship I lose. This is for me.  I need to do this for me. Prove to myself that I can be just as great and anyone else in this world.


I am capable of all that I want to do.


And no one is going to stop me from trying and succeeding.

GED/ACT Journey to The University of Alabama!

HEY Y'ALL!

So I took my G.E.D test on August 18th. Any needless to say I'm anxious for my results.

I'm starting to worry that it was too easy. That I didn't bubble in right-too light, too dark.

I'm already preparing myself for the worst. But yet I am now focusing on my ACT test. I'm about to order a ACT Prep Guide from Amazon.com. I hope I don't get screwed over on my money.

I'm not really sure which to get. But so far I have two top choices. 

 

This one has very good reviews. But most say only because the real test, and t ignore the strategies. I believe it is made by the actual  A.C.T test authors.

 

















This one here. Getting into the ACT, seem reliable also.
I guess I'll decide soon enough tonight.

I'm extremely nervous about taking this test though. It will determine whether I can attend The University of Alabama or not. My husband is supporting me, but we haven't really talked about my fears of rejection. Ugh, I'd die because my hopes are so high. I have yet to 100% decide on a major. I want either a BS of Psychology, or BS of Early Childhood Devlopment/Education.

Either way, I will eventually get what I want. I always do, and I have the determination to get me anywhere in life. "Where there's a will, there's a way!"

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"Hello, I'm Ashley. And I'm Addicted to Facebook."
Ah, Facebook. Anyone who is anyone has a Facebook. Your friends, your family, your teachers, & your mom. To me Facebook is a stalking site. You know everyone's business, even if you don't know them in person. The games, the entertainment, the addictions...I am a facebook addict. Everyone knows it. If I'm not logging into it on the desktop computer, I'm on my iPhone looking at it.

I read your status updates, probably! But there are a few things that piss me off about Facebook friends.

Number One:
When I comment on a status that has a "big event" happening, but doesnt describe it.
For example.


Facebooker's Status:
OMG, I hope I make this. I hope what I'm doing is for the best. Its best for all of us.

My Comment:
Whoa, what's happening that's so big?

Facebooker's Comment:
Oh, nothing. I don't want to talk about it.


Okay, You do not post things on facebook that you don't intend on talking about. If you post it on facebook it is officially everyone's business. I don't like not knowing things. i am a nosy person in general! So please keep the "suspenseful" shit back on your myspace. If you don't want people to ask or know about it, don't post it on your shit!




Number Two:

I hate commenting someones status or writing on someone's wall only to go unanswered. It's a SOCIAL network for a reason. Please be social.
My major pet peeve about this is when they know you have written, yet update their status without replying back to you. Really? If you aren't going to talk to me, delete me immediately because I have a lot to say about EVERYTHING.


Number Three:

Only updating your status once every two months. 

 Facebooker's status:

      chillin'    posted 2 months ago

Usually I delete people like this. Unless they are family, because I like to have FB(Facebook) friends who are active on their accounts.


Number Four:

Obsessively updating your status.

Facebooker's status:

is drinking hot coffee 4 minutes ago

Facebooker's status:

is going to pee. 2 minutes ago

Facebooker's status:

is sitting back down. 34 seconds ago

I don't need to know that you are having coffee right now, and then 4 minutes later you are going to pee. Please keep updates to a minimum daily. I update usually 5 times a day on a busy day! But if I have nothing going on it's usually 3. One in the morning, one mid day, and one at night. 

That is all I have to say about Facebook.
Have a Great Day Yall!

On the Road to Success!

Today I went to Calhoun and registered for my GED test. It took me a total of 3 hours, to bubble in letters, pre-pay for the test, and listen to speeches on old television with a VHS tape playing on how to fill in bubbles. I didn't think you had to be a genius to fill in bubbles. That really was a shocker. Turns out in eight days, I'll be spending an entire day bubbling in little circles to tell me if I'm smart enough to attend college. Let's hope I don't wig out. That would be awful!

 [[Big ups to my haters,btw. I love how you think I can't make it.]]

I'm truly excited though. The lady said I would get 3 credits free? Whatever that actually means to any college I attend in Alabama. I will be taking online classes at Calhoun, more than likely.  Not sure what other colleges offer online classes. I'll have to look into this. Right now all I am worried about is getting the basics taken care of. I'm not dead set on a major, but I'm leaning towards early childhood development, just so I can teach my daughter to my best ability.

 

My Photography. I'm an amateur.

My Gorgeous Daughter and Her Teddy.

She Loves to Pose.

Spongebob Squarepants was on.

Enough!

Good Morning Life! Let's Git-Er-Done!

Good Morning Y'all!

How's it going. I had a wonderful night last night when my husband finally got home....The picture to the left is my daughter, She's my muse for all my photography. I loved the OLD horsie. As does she seeing she was kissing it every five seconds...GERM X please!
She has a natural face for photos. She's a pro, makes my shots look good. I can't wait to get a new camera. Hopefully a Cannon. IDK yet though.

So the movie GAMECHANGER comes out. Husband and I are excited because it has our ALABAMA coach NICK SABAN in it.
It's suppose to be an awesome Movie about him. I love NCAA football so I know I'll enjoy it.

This shows you how excited he was to know about the movie...HAHA. Just kidding. I dont know what he was doing in this, but it turned out SOOO cute.
I love photography, I take as many pictures as possible.

Oh TID BIT:
Apparently there is a SHOWER coming Thursday. I plan to sit on the porch and make wishes all night long. Just like in the song "Airplanes prt II".
Good song, you need to check it out.

Okay, I just have to say I love my husband. I know so many people who are having their falling outs with family, or husbands, or wives...I just wanna say I am one lucky woman to be able to stay with my husband as long as we have. He is so good to me. We've had our VERY bad times. But it's all water under the bridge. We've toughed it out, and in the end we came out on top. I love the fact that people have told us all our relationship since 2005 that we are "just kids" and we will never amount to anything. Yet look at us. We're a happy family, with a healthy baby girl...and we expect to expand our family and have another baby. We're going to be looking at houses to buy soon. I'm going to be heading to college probably next spring if I cant squeeze in this fall. Everything is falling together! It's so great to see that we went from having NOTHING at all, to having everything we could ever want and more. It's amazing to me. And to see how hard my husband works for us, it just breaks my  heart and fills it with joy at the same time. He's exhausted, but he knows it's worth it. He's a very strong man no matter what anyone says. He has changed since i first met him. Changed for the better. I love him with every ounce of my heart. And I'm pretty sure he knows it. He's my hero, my best-friend, and my favorite person. I wouldn't have out life any other way. We began young, and it's made us better people doing it.

So baby this is for you.
You and Addison are my life.
You're the only man that will ever have my heart the way you do.
No other person is ever going to be able to compare to you.
No other love will ever come close to filling my heart the way you do.
Nothing will ever tear us apart.
We're in this for the long haul.
I love you and Addison with everything i have.
And I'd take a million bullets for you both.
I love you sweetheart.

I LOVE YOU BOTH DEARLY

    XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

♥Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater♥♥If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby♥
♥If you give her a house, she'll give you a home♥♥If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal♥♥If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart♥
♥She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her♥
♥So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit♥

So, today I want to write about to "debates" a mother has to go through. More like choices...

First up, 

Breastfeeding vs. formula-

As long as this little baby is fed then good job. I see too many babies on television with flies hovering over them and ripped clothes saying please donate money...the last thing on my mind is "well she should have breast fed him/ formula fed him then he wouldn't be that way.". The only thing is FEED YOUR CHILD. I can not DENY my baby food. If she is hungry; I give her anything she wants. Now, as for Formula feeding, it's very stinky and gross. I did formula. I couldn't stand the idea of pulling out my breast if I was in public. The day I got out of the hospital I was on the go. We went to walmart of all places. Haha. Here's a pic cutting the bands off..then next we headed to walmart.

 As you can tell by this picture, our little girl was healthy on baby formula and whatever else i wanted to feed her. I was NOT strictly baby formula and "rice". No, I had her eating mashed potatoes, chocolate, anything I ate I dabbed on my finger and let her taste. My child was NOT going to have only 2 tastes the entire time she's a baby. Just like baby food. Most I did was "chicken and apples"...and mac n cheese. Everything else she ate was our food. And she grew up perfectly fine. Healthy and active. I believe babies should be able to taste things, and not have to stick to a few certain products in their little life. Some people think "oh my god Ashley, she doesn't need that". But who are they to tell me what I should and shouldn't feed my child. Also, I don't get organic unless I accidentally pick it up. It's no big deal to me. Here's Addison now.       

So there since I put out that part of my debate. Let's move on to better things. In this photo Addison had to be like mommy and curl her hair in curlers. Isn't she sweet. There is nothing better than seeing your daughter try to do what mommy does. And here is me trying to be as adorable as she is. Impossible! Right!!! 

Well There it is. We're amazingly close in looks. I'll show you that in a later post. 




Anyway Im done with blogging for today, tomorrow will be vaccinating or not? Do you vax? Have you read about it...hmm.
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Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.

Oh The Little Loves of Breakfast.

GOOD MORNING!

 So my little girl took on a bowl, cereal, milk, a spoon, and some toast this morning. Surprisingly it wasn't messy at all. It was her first time eating cereal in milk by herself. Needless to say I was impressed with her coordination. It's amazing that a few months ago, she was still dropping stuff off her fork, and now it's spoon to bowl to mouth, as easy as that. Now she does tend to complain if the milk falls on her tummy. "wipe mama"...seems to be her favorite two words while eating.
She can't stand to get dirty. Which worries me when softball time comes around. YES, Im going to be pressuring my daughter to play sports. Why? Because it looks great on a college app,and resumes. And it builds character.

As every morning goes, we eat breakfast on our coffee table while watching spongebob/dora. 
I know, what kind of mother am I to not eat at a kitchen table. I never do it, I never will, unless I'm forced...or at a resturant. As long as I don't "toot" or belch, I'm perfectly happy with my table manners. Usually after every breakfast Addie hits the couch to watch MORE spongebob while I finish up on the dishes and clothes. She wraps up in her carebears blanket lays on her pillow and watched tv until she falls asleep. She will not lay down without a pillow. 

I've started to wonder if spongebob is okay for her to watch. I love spongebob, but some of the things he says is a little on the "queer" side. Haha, Not that it is wrong with being gay. But I really don't like to think of my daughter being made fun of for her choice of loving. But anyway Patrick and Spongebob make me think sometimes, also the way he claims to love squidward. Kinda stalkish. 

Anway I'm cutting this blog short. I am going to try to write my DEBATE blog next, but only when Addie takes her "long nap of the day" or perhaps I will do it tonight while the hubs watches her. Who knows.

Oh, Steak for supper. Got to set it out!

Thanks for reading, comment and let me know you're out there....anybody.

"Life is as positive or as negative as you want to make it.
Be optimistic and you will succeed in even the most negative things you do"

Introductory Blog: A day in the life of a mom.

So, A Mother's blog.

I'm TWENTY years old. I have my own little family. We have recently relocated to a town that I know no one. So I started this blog. We have our ups and down, just like you do.
We are in no way perfect,  but that makes blogging about us fun. This is going to be the most random blog ever, but still it will maintain updates about my daughter who you will come to know and love. Also me, Ashley and my ever-so-tall husband Joshua.

So as every stay at home mom knows, It's a tough job! I do not care if you are the Betty Crocker of cooking and the Mrs. Cleaver of Moms, at one point in your life those wifely/motherly duties knocks you on your butt!
It's a tough job to wake up every morning! I mean I wake up and immediately begin.

It starts by waking up to this loud annoying music my husband puts as his alarm for 6:00AM. then 6:20AM then 6:40 AM. By 6:40AM I say "NO more Josh! Just get up". So finally he gets up and leaves for work. He is a cable guy. Yeah, people hate those, but oh well it pays our bills!

Anyway, I get up and make the bed. We have recently transitioned from a full size bed to a king-size bed. *ahhh* It is wonderful except it take forever to make up, especially if we've had sex the previous night. Any who, by this time my daughter who is almost 2 come into the bedroom and throws her juice cup at me demanding that I refill it. "JUICE MAMA!" "Say please." I always tell her, since she finally learned that word a few weeks ago.

After juice I run and turn on the living room television. I turn to Nick HD and she watches Dora, Sponge bob, iCarly, and all those shows that I like too. I make her a breakfast, this morning it was banana and cream oatmeal. Of course it wound up on the floor, after she brought the bowl back to me and said "DONE MAMA". So I immediately run over with a baby wipe and scrape up goopy oatmeal, and she wants to help...so she smashes it into the carpet of which we JUST moved into! I can't get mad, I mean she's just trying to help! I finally get it cleaned up.

Now onto the kitchen. It's full of dishes from last night. I was too excited by my husband to actually wash dishes last night so after we ate and the daughter fell asleep we took our chance and jumped into bed happily and made those sheets messy! Ha ha. Anyway, so now all the dishes need to be cleaned...thank goodness for dishwashers and disposals right! I also LOVE aluminum foil, it's a fast way to cleanup. So after getting the Pork chop/mac n cheese/green bean/corn pots all cleaned I start my dishwasher.

Next is my laundry. Now reminding you we have just moved, and finally got a washer and dryer, so I have been catching up on 2 weeks worth of clothes! I hate doing laundry. Strike that, I hate folding and hanging clothes! All we have right now is WIRE HANGERS. ugh....I like the plastic ones.

After this I have to tackle Addison's bedroom. TORNADO TOWN! It's crazy. Flash cards over here, Mr. stuff bear over there, and even curtains over here (again just moved in non are hung).

Okay not to mention the dusting, the picking up through out the day, washing windows/mirrors/TVs...

So all this has happened so far, and it's only 1:25.

Tomorrow I'll be posting about all the debates a mother has to face when raising her child. I got this from a friend when I asked her if she vaccinated or not.
BF vs FF Baby Food vs Homemade...etc I'll share my insight with this.
Anyway, as my blogging skills improve perhaps someone out there will actually read my vents.
hanks if you do, leave a comment so I know you are listening...anybody.